Many of us were asked by our mother to do the dishes as children. Perhaps some of us would need to be asked more than once. Koe Creation was the type who’d get asked three times, by three different mothers. Crowded parent-teacher conferences, queer youth summer camp, and parental adoptions over potluck dinner were typical of Koe’s upbringing in a queer, polyamorous family. Taught from young age to embrace sex-positivity and LGBT acceptance, Koe had an experience of “family values” that differs wildly from many raised in conservative North America. Still: all families know conflict and all hearts know struggle, no matter how loved. Though a poster child for the alternative Seattle community, Koe yearned for a realization of theirself beyond the “shadow of their tribe.” This drive for a singular identity led Koe to leave the alt-Seattle scene to find the self that no one person or family could make for them. This Heart Holds Many is a testament of transformative, communal love, as told by an educator and life-long learner who has dedicated their life to helping others grasp their extraordinary love.
What folks are saying about the book
Koe Creation's writing is so intimate and honest that I felt like I was part of their polycule. They are a natural-born storyteller with a unique, timely story to share, plus they have abundant love and wisdom to embrace and engage readers of diverse ages. This Heart Holds Many held me transfixed.
“The question I get a lot as a polyamorous parent is ‘But what about the children?’ Having a firsthand account by someone who lived and loved and learned in a polyamorous household is invaluable to any of us who raise children in the same environment. Bravo!”
“Imagine that a big tribal family from the 22nd century falls into our time and lands in Seattle, where they have to keep partly hidden from the normals. You’re born into it and grow up through a rollicking kidhood, a moody, rebellious adolescence, then young-adult questing and brilliant maturity. All the while you hide your three moms and two dads from forces in the ‘overculture’ that may threaten them—while you become an ambassador from the 22nd century to many others. This fast-paced memoir grabs you like a piece of Heinlein’s science fiction, while serving as a guide, a warning, an encouragement, and a wise teaching tool for families of every kind.”
“This autobiography of a young adult raised in a pagan, polyamorous extended family is full of information for parents and kids of all backgrounds. Useful ideas abound and lead the reader to question the traditional wisdom of our society.”
“Koe Creation’s delightful book This Heart Holds Many is perfect for anyone who has wondered how polyamorous families affect children, parents, and those Koe calls ‘parent adjacent.’ In a rare peek into the life of a ‘polykid’ raised by five parents, Koe offers anecdotes from their life with a polytribe. From the pregnant lady sandwich to the chaotic (mis)adventures of young love or the trials and triumphs of adulting, Koe guides readers through the life of a second-generation polyamorous person with charming candor.”