Koe Creation

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Koe’s story

Koe Creation is truly a Sex Educator for the 21st century. Having grown up as a child of a sex-positive, polyamorous family, Koe uses their unique knowledge as a second-generation queerspawn to provide prospective parents & families a framework for successful cross-generational communication about their identities and relationship(s).

Now freshly 30, Koe literally has a lifetime of hands-on training in nonviolent communication, intentional relationship building and sex-positive parenting, from the child’s perspective. Koe’s interest in relationship dynamics and Koe's award winning involvement in the Sex Education, LGBTQ Activism, Public Health Advocacy and work within Polyamorous and Kink communities has only grown throughout their life.

Koe has always been a performer; from early beginnings as their family’s resident ham for the camera to eventually working as a professional actor, model and dancer through their young adulthood. Koe was also deeply influenced by the positive role modeling they received, as a youth, attending summer camps for alternative families. In their current work with families, Koe brings the dedicated passion and vulnerable strength of performance to support their struggling clients, filling much needed roles like “Personal Gender Cheerleader”, “Sex-Positive Camp Counselor” & “Polyamorous Auntie You Never Had!”

Currently Residing in San Francisco, Koe finds time to run away to the forest in between balancing clients, partners and, of course, their thriving, polyamorous family!

Koe is available for workshops, public speaking and personal consult.

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“I am passionate about using humor and playfulness as teaching tools, encouraging both youth and adults to question what they know to find the best answers for them. With my guidance and tools, my clients find an increased sense of moving grace, understanding and confidence in the process of communicating with their families.”

— Koe Creation

Places spoken

Sex-Positive Venues

Sex Geek Summer Camp, 2023
Atlanta Poly Weekend, 2019
SouthWest LoveFest, 2019
SoloPolyCon, 2017
Catalystcon West, 2015
Poly Living West, 2010, 2022
Center & Foundation for Sex-Positive Culture, Seattle
Shebop, Portland
Babeland, Seattle
Bawdy Storytelling, SF
Bawdy Storytelling, Seattle
Polycamp, Northwest 2005-2009

Seattle Erotic Art Festival, 2019
Western Erotic Hypnosis Unconference, 2016
Dark Odyssey: Surrender, 2016
IMsL/IMsBB, 2016
ArmoryStudios, SF
Kink.com
SF Citadel
Twisted Windows, SF
The Bonobo Network

Academia

UW Medical School
Stanford University
University of Washington
Highline Community College
Pierce Community College
Pacific Lutheran University

Book Koe Creation

New Word Content

meta•kid

n. The non-biological child of your partner or tribe member.

meta•parent

n. The non-biological parent polykid or partner of a polyamorous parent.

poly•kid

n. Koe’s childhood term for a kid raised in a polyamorous family. (Used 1900-2018, update forthcoming in respect of Polynesian identity.)

poly•cule

n. 1. A metaphor for your polyamorous life! 2. A visual relationship model using molecular structures.

Media Appearances

Podcast: Polyamory Weekly, (2014-2017)
526 Poly Comet special (Aug 10, 2017)
479 What you need to know about diversity in Poly (Jul 25, 2016)
473 The Myth of Poly Perfection (Mar 31, 2016)
469 Non-sexual relationships (Mar 3, 2016)
462 Are hierarchies getting a bad rap? (Jan 14, 2016)
459 How to avoid polysaturation (Dec 17, 2015)
452 Poly on a budget (Oct 29, 2015)
447 Poly people of color (Sep 17, 2015)
443 So you wanna be Poly Wan Kenobi (Aug 20, 2015)
430 Don’t try polyamory before listening to this (Apr 27, 2015)
425 Dating again at 37 (Mar 15, 2015)
423 How to feel special (Mar 7, 2015)
419 Long distance relationships (Jan 30, 2015)
416 Growing up poly, the bad (Jan 10, 2015)|
415 Growing up poly, the good stuff (Jan 1, 2015)

Article: Vogue Magazine, Is Monogamy Over?, (2022)

Article: Psychology Today, Do Kids from Polyamorous Families Become Poly Themselves?, (2019)

Article: Vamos Falar de Sexualidade Blog - Interview with Koe Creation Works in Sex Positive is Sexual Educator, Activist LBTQ, (2017)

Article: Poly Role Models, Koe Creation, (2016)

Article: The Seattle Stranger, - “Heather Has Two Mommies, One Daddy, and Several Matriarchal Women in the Community Who She Thinks of as Moms”, (2010)

Podcast: Nope, We’re Not Monogamous, Navigating Polyamory and Parenting, (2023)

Podcast: Iambic Poetry Podcast, Koe Creation: This Heart Holds Many (2020)

Podcast: Normalizing Non-Monogamy, Koe Creation (2019)

Podcast: With Poly Anna, Koe Creation (2019)

Podcast: Loving Without Boundaries, Koe Creation – Author of “This Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family” (2019)

Podcast: A Touch of Flavor, Interview with a Queerspawn - Koe Creation (2019)

Podcast: The O Face Podcast, Episode 65 - Koe Creation, (2016)

Podcast: The Seattle Kinkcast, Episode 15 - Koe Joins Me To Discuss Sex Education and Kink!, (2015)

Podcast: Ban this Podcast, Episode Growing Up in A Polyamorous Family - Interview with Koecreate, (2017)

TV: Bill Nye saves the World!, Episode 16 - We Suck at Sleep, (2017)

TV: The Tyra Banks Show, Episode 21 - Group Love: A look at polyamory, (2006)

TV: The Montel Williams Show, Episode Multiple Love: Polyamory (2005)

TV: Disney Channel, Phil of the Future -“It’s a Wonder-Phil Life” (Fiction, as Erin Strand), (2005)

Documentary: Firecracker Films, I Love You, and You, and You, (2006)

Newspaper: The Seattle Times, (2006)

personal coaching

Coaching Testimonials

Nov 4, 2020

Non-Monogamous Families

Nov 4, 2020

Purpose

My family unit and I met with Koe to support a conscious uncoupling of our polyamorous family unit (polycule). Together, the 4 of us have 2 children which and we knew that Koe's specialized knowledge, personal lived experience, and frameworks specific to our family structure would be the most supportive environment to receive this support.

Outcome & Recommendation

We were able to successfully set new family agreements and talk about our individual and collective needs and feelings around this big transition. I enthusiastically recommend Koe as a community space holder for your family's transitions whether it's setting intentions for the first time, restructuring, or a conscious uncoupling.

Process/Procedure

Koe provided the structure we needed, and accomplished a huge amount during the time we spent which was one life changing and critical hour. We took turns speaking, and reflecting, and Koe reflected back our needs and asks to confirm we had the shared understanding we needed. Koe's facilitation allowed us all to engage with the process without having to individually hold the collective, pay attention to the time, etc. since Koe adeptly took care of that part.

- Finn (San Francisco) June 2020

Nov 4, 2020

Individuals and Couples

Nov 4, 2020

In just a few wonderful conversations Koe was able to help me understand and trust my own seekings and desires; to articulate my passions and ground them intentionally into my body.

I came away from my conversations with Koe armed with the knowledge and courage to listen to and trust my own instincts; and with practical, nurturing ways to keep my body, desires, and intentions all aligned with each other.

Thanks to Koe I was able to weather some turbulent times in my relationships and emerge more confident, content, and fulfilled.

— Dave, (Balitmore, MD)

Nov 4, 2020

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